I had breakfast with my Sir this morning. We talked about cannibalism.

Obviously the conversation didn’t start with the tabooed practice of humans eating humans, but it’s fascinating where chatter goes when you’re enjoying each other’s company. Sir doubles as my gym trainer. He said that in order to bulk up, I need to eat more meat.

No problem there. I’m an adventurous carnivore. And eating meat is kind of sexy. We talked about that, about where that low-level sexiness comes from. He asked if I thought it was related to my love of really rough sex.

I’ve read that our modern sexual revolution of the rougher arts — kink, torture, rape fantasy, role-play, BDSM and its subsets — is a modern day version, tamed-down, of our most ancient human urges: fuck, kill, eat. Kinksters may not want to say that, but I think it’s true.

Some interpretations of the Bible even talk about rape and cannibalism (always going hand in hand, oddly) as somewhat common practices of the ancient world. Ninevah, for example.

Cannibalism seems to have been more common in the ancient world than it is now. Hence, the species-wide need for rough sex. Kink replaces an old savagery, or rather, it re-channels it into something socially acceptable.

Kink and BDSM aren’t new human activities. In some form, they’ve always been around. We are a violent species and our violence has always extended into our sexual impulses. Before we painted on cave walls, we raped.

pulled pork

It has been said, incidentally, that humans taste remarkably like pork.

Why the impulse to hurt? Why do so many people enjoy seeing others in agony? It’s disarming, seeing someone that vulnerable. If the many cases of prison torture (some of the worst done by the United States military) show us anything, they show that humans, when handed an unfamiliar amount of power, enjoy using it to use and abuse others. We get off from it. It’s what we like.

I think this innate impulse to dominate and abuse is something most of us share and can speak to if we’re honest with ourselves. Which is why I think BDSM and kink are great, healthy alternatives to actual rape and abuse. They channel these impulses into a controlled, regulated activity that provides mutual, agreed-upon pleasure for both (or all) parties involved.

Kink still exists on the taboo plane, and if you go quite a few extensions down that plane, you eventually find bestiality (sex with animals). You can use your imagination to deduce what follows from there. But it’s all on the same plane — sex — and I imagine way down at the dark end of it, past pedophilia and actual rape (not role play), is cannibalism.

This shouldn’t be surprising. The mouth is the most commonly sexualized part of the body. Before you try it in the vagina or ass, you suck. Even the language of sex invokes consumption: getting “eaten out,” “eating ass,” “man-eater.”

Konrad Lorenz said, “Human aggression is instinctual. Mankind has not evolved any ritualized aggression-inhibiting mechanisms to ensure the survival of the species. For this reason, man is considered a very dangerous animal.”

Konrad Lorenz would probably be completely accepting of BDSM.

Konrad Lorenz would probably be completely accepting of BDSM.

I’m not entirely sure we haven’t found a ritualized aggression inhibiting mechanism. When I see men punching bags in the gym, or Varsity footballers tackling each other on the field, or a submissive getting flogged to shit by a Sir, I find it hard to believe these aren’t ritualized methods of releasing natural animal urges.

So kinksters, next time you’re enjoying playtime, consider the psychosocial roots of your play. To all sex-hungry homos, the next time you’re at a circuit party, lurking the dim playspaces hunting for cock, think about how easy it is to reduce the men around you to animals with appendages — to pieces of meat, crowded in a hot pen of desire and noise for you to use and play with. Consume to your heart’s content.

Beastly

Writer, blogger, illustrator, kinkster.

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