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Hello there! I’m Beastly — known professionally as Alexander Cheves (pronouns: he/him). I am a freelance writer and copywriter living in New York City. My work has appeared in many publications including Them, Into, Hornet, Out Magazine, Vice, Gayety, and Plus. I am a sex columnist for The Advocate Magazine — check out my column Sexy Beast. If you’d like to see more of my work, please visit my website.
After a bad breakup in college, my ex-boyfriend spread nasty rumors about me — that I was a raging cheater (true) riddled with infections (false). In retaliation, I owned my status as a pariah and started a tell-all blog, “The Pyscho Ex-Boyfriend.”
Classmates quickly pointed out that I wasn’t psycho — I was angry. I had opinions about relationships and, lamenting the ways I had failed my earliest attempts at love, sought alternatives. This blog was a place to vent. Many of the original, rambling posts have been edited or removed. They were unkind.
A classmate suggested replacing “psycho” with a better word. I was just beginning to explore my wild sexual side and “beastly” — a British word for nasty, vile — appeared one day during a kinky sex session. My blog became “The Beastly Ex-Boyfriend” — now shortened to “Beastly.” My boyfriend at the time started calling me “Beastly” affectionately, and my sir decided it was my dog name, my moniker in kink. The nickname stuck.
If you’re an editor or employer, please contact me via my website. I am seeking opportunities and would love to speak with you. Thank you for visiting.